Monday, 1 February 2016
Red-hot carpet: THIS PARTICULAR CHRISTIAN BROTHER(prt 1)
Red-hot carpet: THIS PARTICULAR CHRISTIAN BROTHER(prt 1): Mara's mother always told her that if she got a man, he should be saved. i agree, because in all honesty, how can two walk together unless...
THIS PARTICULAR CHRISTIAN BROTHER(prt 1)
Mara's mother always told her that if i get a man, he should be saved. i agree, because in all honesty, how can two walk together unless they agree?(Amos3;3).
however, there is this crucial part of the equation that mothers forget to add, mine included. that, if you happen to find a brother who is not a practicing born again, you cannot change him, rather, he will draw you to his way and then boom! i know it sounds like it should be common sense but as Mara found out,common sense was not hat much common. Anyway, for today, that is not the point.because I am not yet sure how to down that road without being hypocritical or judgmental. Let me tell you about this christian brother. Whether he is a practicing born again is between him and Jesus.
Mara was seven months pregnant by the time she was finally able to tell her parents and go home. Gephas was her neighbor back in the village. he was at the time, the only one of all her neighbors the one she could relate. Gephas was a little older than her but they could talk and laugh. he always made her uncomfortable and nervous and Mara did a long list of stupid things when she was around the guy. she was a fluent speaker( she is a performing artiste-speech is vital for the success of this chosen career path) but somehow, she stammered through everything she said when she was with him. she trembled even, damn, she could hear her voice shake. she only got that feeling when she was on stage, you know while performing an act. Which is exactly what she would do whenever she was in the presence of this man.
Mara considered this Gephas person a friend. so, since she had jumped the hurdle of telling her parents about the pregnancy, she could tell her friends, at least the ones who did not know yet. one of them was Gephas. she settled on a text because she dared not call lest he ignored her quite openly.
the sequence she has now gotten used to followed;
shock- disbelief('' What! you are lying, uwongo)- awkward questions( so, what are you going to do?, who is the father?)-moment of silence-asking for time to process( let me call you).
Call he did,albeit late into the night. and my oh my. He was exactly what Mara needed. He was not judgmental, they joked about it and Mara felt a little at ease. The following months were late night chats which would sometimes go late into the night. he was always so encouraging and supportive. always telling her to pray for her baby every day, to be still and let God be God. all this was so cool and very helpful through out her pregnancy.
He was there even for the delivery, at least he was one of the people he texted to ask for prayers when the doctors told her her baby was in distress and she needed surgery. He even came to see her in hospital and brought with him a card.
All this time, Mara's head knew that he was just a big brother. but why did her body temperature shoot any time he was around her, and why did did she anticipate a message from him all the time?
Brother Gephas was still supportive even after the birth of the baby and would still text until his encouragement took a different turn altogether.
however, there is this crucial part of the equation that mothers forget to add, mine included. that, if you happen to find a brother who is not a practicing born again, you cannot change him, rather, he will draw you to his way and then boom! i know it sounds like it should be common sense but as Mara found out,common sense was not hat much common. Anyway, for today, that is not the point.because I am not yet sure how to down that road without being hypocritical or judgmental. Let me tell you about this christian brother. Whether he is a practicing born again is between him and Jesus.
Mara was seven months pregnant by the time she was finally able to tell her parents and go home. Gephas was her neighbor back in the village. he was at the time, the only one of all her neighbors the one she could relate. Gephas was a little older than her but they could talk and laugh. he always made her uncomfortable and nervous and Mara did a long list of stupid things when she was around the guy. she was a fluent speaker( she is a performing artiste-speech is vital for the success of this chosen career path) but somehow, she stammered through everything she said when she was with him. she trembled even, damn, she could hear her voice shake. she only got that feeling when she was on stage, you know while performing an act. Which is exactly what she would do whenever she was in the presence of this man.
Mara considered this Gephas person a friend. so, since she had jumped the hurdle of telling her parents about the pregnancy, she could tell her friends, at least the ones who did not know yet. one of them was Gephas. she settled on a text because she dared not call lest he ignored her quite openly.
the sequence she has now gotten used to followed;
shock- disbelief('' What! you are lying, uwongo)- awkward questions( so, what are you going to do?, who is the father?)-moment of silence-asking for time to process( let me call you).
Call he did,albeit late into the night. and my oh my. He was exactly what Mara needed. He was not judgmental, they joked about it and Mara felt a little at ease. The following months were late night chats which would sometimes go late into the night. he was always so encouraging and supportive. always telling her to pray for her baby every day, to be still and let God be God. all this was so cool and very helpful through out her pregnancy.
He was there even for the delivery, at least he was one of the people he texted to ask for prayers when the doctors told her her baby was in distress and she needed surgery. He even came to see her in hospital and brought with him a card.
All this time, Mara's head knew that he was just a big brother. but why did her body temperature shoot any time he was around her, and why did did she anticipate a message from him all the time?
Brother Gephas was still supportive even after the birth of the baby and would still text until his encouragement took a different turn altogether.
Saturday, 30 January 2016
Red-hot carpet: I WISH HE CHEATED
Red-hot carpet: I WISH HE CHEATED: Most people in a relationship dread the day they either catch their other half cheating or they simply find out he/she was cheating on them....
I WISH HE CHEATED
Most people in a relationship dread the day they either catch their other half cheating or they simply find out he/she was cheating on them. the thought that he saw somebody else apart form you is what hurts the most. then follows the regret of the time you two spent together. afterward, the details- the money you spent on this ungrateful human, the friends you bailed because of him/ her. the parties you missed because he was sick. (I have at this point decided to use he as my case in point). you know, the little things that make you actually believe that being hypnotized is real.
but, what if the day comes that you live wishing that he made a mistake so you could leave him? what if you fell in love with two people and as each day passes, you constantly wish that it was the other one?
lets call her Mara. she had a great man by his side who evidently adored her. however, the bug of the ex bit her.( remind me again, why are exes usually more interesting than bae. you know, the ex whom you just stopped talking to, not that you two fought or something.)
Peter, was a fashion blogger and a poet. so, he was a creative like her. she sought him out on face book and eventually on whats app. and boy, wasn't he way more fun than her bae Raphael. he actually got her jokes and went along with her sarcasm. eventually, she began to look forward to Peters conversations which i might add effortlessly trailed late into the night.
even though Mara knew that Raphael loved her, try as she might, their chats would last 15min before he explained how tired he was and needed to rest because he had work the next day, you see Raphael was an accountant. they basically had nothing to talk about save for complaints of fatigue and boring details about one meeting or the other.
with Peter, they connected artistically. they would exchange links, and share blogs.
Mara was a good girl, no; she could not possibly break up with Raphael. A midst his dull jokes and lack of conversational skills, he still was the most caring man she had ever met. He knew when she needed him. and he had been there for her through very dark times in her life, actually he was the only one who had been there to hold her hand and tell her, it would be okay.
as selfish as it sounded, but thank God it was only in her head; what if she caught him ccheating. then she would leave and go to be in the arms of Peter. and they would have this fairy tell union where the man always perfectly understand the woman.
ooh well, at this stage of her life, she knows that what a woman really needs is a man to stand with her in the darkness and whisper 'bae is here'.a man who will hold her till she calms down and the tears are dry.
she could try to simplify the jokes for him so that he laughs... maybe.
but, what if the day comes that you live wishing that he made a mistake so you could leave him? what if you fell in love with two people and as each day passes, you constantly wish that it was the other one?
lets call her Mara. she had a great man by his side who evidently adored her. however, the bug of the ex bit her.( remind me again, why are exes usually more interesting than bae. you know, the ex whom you just stopped talking to, not that you two fought or something.)
Peter, was a fashion blogger and a poet. so, he was a creative like her. she sought him out on face book and eventually on whats app. and boy, wasn't he way more fun than her bae Raphael. he actually got her jokes and went along with her sarcasm. eventually, she began to look forward to Peters conversations which i might add effortlessly trailed late into the night.
even though Mara knew that Raphael loved her, try as she might, their chats would last 15min before he explained how tired he was and needed to rest because he had work the next day, you see Raphael was an accountant. they basically had nothing to talk about save for complaints of fatigue and boring details about one meeting or the other.
with Peter, they connected artistically. they would exchange links, and share blogs.
Mara was a good girl, no; she could not possibly break up with Raphael. A midst his dull jokes and lack of conversational skills, he still was the most caring man she had ever met. He knew when she needed him. and he had been there for her through very dark times in her life, actually he was the only one who had been there to hold her hand and tell her, it would be okay.
as selfish as it sounded, but thank God it was only in her head; what if she caught him ccheating. then she would leave and go to be in the arms of Peter. and they would have this fairy tell union where the man always perfectly understand the woman.
ooh well, at this stage of her life, she knows that what a woman really needs is a man to stand with her in the darkness and whisper 'bae is here'.a man who will hold her till she calms down and the tears are dry.
she could try to simplify the jokes for him so that he laughs... maybe.
Red-hot carpet: A LETTER TO MY SMALL SISTER
Red-hot carpet: A LETTER TO MY SMALL SISTER: Dear Sister, Hallo, I am aware we have not had quite the textbook sister to sister relationship. However, I would like to share some life l...
Monday, 9 November 2015
Thursday, 29 October 2015
A LETTER TO MY SMALL SISTER
Dear Sister,
Hallo, I am aware we have not had quite the textbook sister to sister relationship. However, I would like to share some life lessons I have picked along the way that might help you to avoid the pitfalls I have succumbed to growing up. so here I go:
MONEY:
Spend your money on the things you like. I understand that you have to save and all but please do not save to an extent of denying yourself the very things that you need or to an extent of being miserable. Buy oil, perfume, a comfortable shoe, a pretty top. however, save also for a rainy day. this eliminates the need to depend on people for everything you need,
TIME:
let your excuse in life never be that you do not have time. time and chance are given equally to everybody so use yours wisely. do all you have to do in good time so that you do not get last minute pressure. you had better panic early than do so at the last minute. see, for example, an assignment
- do it early, finish. this frees you and gives you time to do other things that you may love doing but somehow never get time. also, you are able to be moire efficient and reliable especially when you get to the work industry.
FRIENDS;
these are great people in our lives but never lose yourself while you are busy living for your friend. what i have realized dear sister is that you are the most important person in your life. if you decide to go for shopping at 10 pm, and your friend refuses or postpones you do what you want to do because at the end of the day it is your life you are looking at. i do not mean ditch your friends but i do mean that love yourself to the extent of not shortchanging yourself in anything.
FASHION:
wear what you feel smart in.
BOYS;
leave them, allow them to grow.
MEN:
the man who loves you is one who respects you and treats you like a tender flower. you will feel the need to work hard to please him but as long as you know what you are doing is right, do not compromise in any way. you will feel so good about yourself. life has a way of telling us that if that man goes a way he goes away with all the love life has to offer but take it form me, if he does not treat you as a princess, your prince is still out there.
whatever happens, do not move in with him until he has committed to be your husband.
LOVE:
here is a subject I will tell you. love is within yourself. you need to love yourself so much such that you have enough to share with those around you. do not seek to get it from people.
GOD:
always, always remember him. after all is said and done.he is all we need.
love,
Glow-big siz.
Hallo, I am aware we have not had quite the textbook sister to sister relationship. However, I would like to share some life lessons I have picked along the way that might help you to avoid the pitfalls I have succumbed to growing up. so here I go:
MONEY:
Spend your money on the things you like. I understand that you have to save and all but please do not save to an extent of denying yourself the very things that you need or to an extent of being miserable. Buy oil, perfume, a comfortable shoe, a pretty top. however, save also for a rainy day. this eliminates the need to depend on people for everything you need,
TIME:
let your excuse in life never be that you do not have time. time and chance are given equally to everybody so use yours wisely. do all you have to do in good time so that you do not get last minute pressure. you had better panic early than do so at the last minute. see, for example, an assignment
- do it early, finish. this frees you and gives you time to do other things that you may love doing but somehow never get time. also, you are able to be moire efficient and reliable especially when you get to the work industry.
FRIENDS;
these are great people in our lives but never lose yourself while you are busy living for your friend. what i have realized dear sister is that you are the most important person in your life. if you decide to go for shopping at 10 pm, and your friend refuses or postpones you do what you want to do because at the end of the day it is your life you are looking at. i do not mean ditch your friends but i do mean that love yourself to the extent of not shortchanging yourself in anything.
FASHION:
wear what you feel smart in.
BOYS;
leave them, allow them to grow.
MEN:
the man who loves you is one who respects you and treats you like a tender flower. you will feel the need to work hard to please him but as long as you know what you are doing is right, do not compromise in any way. you will feel so good about yourself. life has a way of telling us that if that man goes a way he goes away with all the love life has to offer but take it form me, if he does not treat you as a princess, your prince is still out there.
whatever happens, do not move in with him until he has committed to be your husband.
LOVE:
here is a subject I will tell you. love is within yourself. you need to love yourself so much such that you have enough to share with those around you. do not seek to get it from people.
GOD:
always, always remember him. after all is said and done.he is all we need.
love,
Glow-big siz.
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